What to Do If My Ex-Wife Ignores Court-Ordered Phone Calls

When court-ordered phone calls with your child are ignored, it can leave you feeling helpless and frustrated. Maintaining communication with your child is a crucial part of fostering your relationship, and when the other parent disregards a legal agreement, it’s natural to feel concerned. 

At Jackman Law Firm, we’ve been helping families in Washington State since 2014 navigate family law issues like these. Let’s explore what you can do if your ex-wife is ignoring court-ordered phone calls.

Document Everything

The first step in addressing this issue is to start keeping detailed records. Documentation will be invaluable if you need to escalate the matter legally. Here’s how you can stay organized:

• Record Every Attempt: Keep a log of every time you tried to call, including the date, time, and outcome. If your call goes unanswered, note it.
• Save Correspondence: Store copies of any text messages, emails, or other communication you’ve sent to your ex-wife regarding the phone calls.
• Use a Dedicated Journal: Writing everything down in one place can help ensure you don’t miss any details.

Attempt Communication Through Other Channels

If your phone calls are being ignored, consider reaching out through other means while remaining respectful and child-focused. Here are some tips:

• Email or Text Messages: Send polite, neutral messages asking for a time to speak with your child.
• Child-Centered Language: Frame your communication around your child’s well-being. For example, say, “I haven’t been able to reach [child’s name]. Can we arrange a time for a call so I can check in?”
• Avoid Confrontation: Stay calm and professional in all your messages. Avoid accusatory or emotionally charged language, which could escalate tensions.

Document these attempts as well, as they can further support your case if legal action becomes necessary.

Consider Mediation

Mediation can often help parents resolve disputes without needing to go back to court. A neutral third party facilitates communication and helps both parents reach an agreement. Here are some key points about mediation:

• Improves Communication: Mediation provides a structured environment where both parties can express their concerns and work toward a solution.
• Less Adversarial: Mediation is generally less stressful than court proceedings and can preserve a cooperative co-parenting relationship.
• Accessible Resources: If you’re in Washington State, you can find local mediation services here.

Mediation can be an effective way to address and resolve issues related to missed phone calls while keeping your child’s best interests at the forefront.

Understand the Legal Consequences of Contempt

If all efforts to resolve the issue amicably fail, it may be time to consider legal action. In Washington State, failing to comply with court-ordered phone calls can be considered contempt of court. Here’s what you need to know:

• What Is Contempt? Contempt of court occurs when someone willfully disobeys a court order. Ignoring a custody agreement that includes phone calls qualifies.
• How to File: To begin the process, you’ll file a motion for contempt with the court. You’ll need to provide evidence, which is why keeping detailed records is so important.
• Potential Consequences: If found in contempt, your ex-wife could face penalties such as fines, mandatory make-up calls, or even jail time. In Washington, fines are at least $100 per violation under RCW 7.21.030.

Taking this step can be a turning point in ensuring compliance with the court order and protecting your right to communicate with your child.

Explore a Modification as a Long-Term Solution

If the issue persists, it might be worth considering a modification to your parenting plan. A modification can help create a more enforceable and practical agreement. Here’s what you should know:

• When to Modify: A pattern of missed calls, significant changes in your child’s needs, or persistent non-compliance may justify a modification.
• What Can Be Modified: Adjustments could include setting specific times for calls, incorporating video calls, or adding provisions to address violations.
• How an Attorney Can Help: A family law attorney can guide you through the modification process and advocate for changes that prioritize your relationship with your child.

Every situation is unique, but a well-crafted modification can make a big difference in ensuring reliable communication.

Facing Challenges with Court-Ordered Phone Calls? Jackman Law Firm Can Help.

At Jackman Law Firm, we know how critical it is to maintain your bond with your child. Since 2014, we’ve been dedicated to helping families resolve custody disputes and enforce parenting plans. If you’re struggling with an ex-spouse who’s ignoring court-ordered phone calls, let us help you take action.

Contact us today to schedule a consultation. Together, we can protect your rights and ensure your child’s best interests are upheld. Call us at (206) 588-5555 or visit our Contact Us page to get started.